My name is Ryan, and I am the second eldest son of a family with seven children--six boys, and one girl. Oakley means Oak Tree Meadow, and so my namesake has inspired much of my work and style. Growing up homeschooled gave me an early glimpse into family life, and for as long as I can remember, I was surrounded by large families. The Boyscouts of America gave me the opportunity to learn and live by their Oath and Law, and I eventually became an Eagle Scout. After consulting with several of my mentors, I was encouraged to pursue a Degree in Psychology, and later attend LeTourneau University for my Master's in Marriage and Family Therapy. I had the distinct pleasure to study in a Christian Environment which offered me an expansive understanding of scripture and the example that Christ has given us to further His ministry in healing and caring for His people. My earlier experiences in Mental Health took place in Longview Texas at an Outpatient Mental Health Facility called Community Healthcore. My larger population of clientele included individuals with schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, major depression, and personality disorders--some, if not all, confounded by substance abuse. My passion, however, was always driven to learning people's stories, and showing them that they are valued by my sincere care for them. Lately, I have been enjoying married life, and I am the blessed father of two beautiful daughters. We have been living in the Smith County area now for a few years, and I have had the distinct pleasure to work under such Counselors in the area including the Alethia Team. I love family life, church life, and am searching for God in everything that I do and in everyone that I meet. My greatest joy is Him, and to Him and His Kingdom be all the Glory.
One Story at a Time
My direct passion for counseling comes from my gift for telling stories, and my joy for having others heard. Over the years, I have heard some amazing life stories, each one inspiring me, and each indicating the unfathomable will and resiliency of mankind. My hope is for you to feel the freedom to share your story with me, and that I may have the honor of helping you tell it. Part of my story is an ever-growing relationship with Christ. His model of shepherding us, and sacrificing Himself for us is one I try my best to recreate. While it inspires my philosophy, my intentions is to invite faith into the process, and not impose. I have met several people whose lives have been smitten by the darkness of the world, provoking their anger towards God. Many of them demand justice, and have yet to see it.
The relationship tends to be the key factor for change. I may not be the right fit for you. If that is the case, I may know someone who is. I have contacts in the East Texas Area to get you in touch with the right person. Counseling is most effective when it is voluntary. While I will visit with mandated clients, I am well aware that if they are not willing to make a difference, then a difference will not be made. Some children who are needing to see a counselor often do not want to be there, and may be under the impression that they are being punished. Counseling should never be seen as a punishment, but a tool to improve your life, and the lives of those who surround you.
Over the range of my experience, I have found that I lack proficiency when helping clients with certain presenting problems. I am not the right person to help with divorce, mediating families with custody issues, or with children with special needs. Concerning minors, I have had more experience and success with boys ages seven and up. While online services with children are possible, it is not preferable as children often need an in-person connection.